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Set boundaries<\/p>\n

At the weekend I was able to lead a workshop with over 100 women at the Pachamama Festival<\/a> and I am still totally filled with gratitude and joy.<\/p>\n

I am telling you this here today because, among other things, we practiced with the energy of Durga. Durga is a goddess from the Hindu pantheon and has many parallels with Artemis (Greek) or Diana (Roman). She is both a warrior and a compassionate mother and is especially good at one thing: setting boundaries! She has an incredibly good nose for bullsh*t and doesn’t tolerate it. <\/p>\n

Setting boundaries is incredibly important, because it is only through boundaries that I can<\/p>\n

1. feel myself,<\/p>\n

2. get in touch with others (“Man becomes the I through the Thou.” – M. Buber),<\/p>\n

3. maintain my integrity.<\/p>\n

Without exception, all the women in the workshop have experienced boundary violations. You probably have too, right? After an exercise, one sister shared an important insight: “It’s much harder to say “Stop!” when the boundary approach happens gradually, slowly, with a smile!” <\/p>\n

Yes, indeed! Preferably with a pinch of manipulation \u00e0 la “Don’t be like that!” or “I only mean well!” This is where you need the qualities of Durga: clarity, determination and willingness to act. I would add: trust in your belly voice! It MUST be exposed, clearly audible, dear woman. And if it is buried in you, set about uncovering it – immediately! Because it is nothing less than life-saving. <\/p>\n

Interestingly, in a conversation with Luca, who led the men’s circle<\/a>, it emerged that they also work with boundaries first in their work. Nice, isn’t it? After all, boundaries are also essential in a couple’s relationship<\/a> – indeed, it is through them that real contact becomes possible in the first place and not, as many people still believe, through boundlessness and symbiosis. <\/p>\n

Maybe these lines will make you think about where you are not standing up for yourself enough or not setting clear enough boundaries. I would be delighted! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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