You may be familiar with this… You’ve broken up or are about to. Maybe it’s about your partner, or maybe it’s about contact with your parents or a friend.
You actually know that a “separation” would be best and you also know that your recent loss of energy has to do with the relationship. You’re not really happy and tell yourself that you just need to make a little more effort to make things better.
I speak from experience! And I can now tell you that it’s worth taking a look behind the scenes to find out what beliefs, imprints and fears are at work. No, relationships don’t have to be energy-sapping, dramatic, exhausting and complicated. Unless you decide to.
Something very important: It’s normal (completely!) that break-ups scare you and that your system resists them with all its tricks and gimmicks. The female brain is geared towards connection right from the start! We think in a more networked way, recognize emotions better than men and are the socially competent high-flyers of the sexes. So your brain panics when separation is imminent – and releases the corresponding messenger substances. I am not exaggerating neurochemically when I compare the separation process with drug withdrawal.
So forgive yourself if you go the extra mile and take longer than your best friend would like. As well as not simply avoiding the pain, it’s just as important to get support. This doesn’t have to be a therapist, good friends and women’s circles can work wonders.
5 tips that really help:
– Keep in mind what kind of relationship you want.
– Transform your unhelpful beliefs (e.g.: “I will never be loved like this again.”)
– Do sport! This boosts the happiness and reward hormones.
– Get support – go out with friends, let them hug you…
– Pamper yourself. Pursue your hobbies. Read a gripping novel.
👉 If you don’t want to do it alone, contact me !
I believe in you!